You are the average of the 5 people you hang out with the most.
So if you look around and you’re dissatisfied with your life, take a look at all the influences. For example do you constantly hear “Oh that’s a dumb idea”, or “why would you want to do that”, or “wouldn’t you rather just …”
These thoughts and influences help to shape how we view ourselves and they become the soundtrack in our mind.
I found that in my life when I was succeeding and happiest, I was surrounded by people who were the model I wanted to follow. When I was at my lowest points I surrounded myself with people who also were low, depressing, angry, blame driven.
It wasn’t that these people were “bad”, it was just that they were bad for me. In my life I’ve always prided myself on my ability to shape my friendships and I’ve always been excited to meet someone new. Someone I can learn from, a new friend, someone who I can connect with.
When we are on the precipice of change we can go one of two ways, we can intentionally choose to grow, or not. Choosing to stay where you are actually doesn’t feel good, so we tend to get validation from people who also chose that path.
If we choose growth we do the exact same thing! We look for the people who have grown and we learn from them. If you don't believe me, take a look at the people in your life. Who do you enjoy being with the most? Do you really like crushing beers, complaining about work/life with your mates? Or, are you more inclined to join a book club, a mastermind for your business, a running group, or just jam out with your friend on guitars?
The things you do define who you are as a person, and the people you surround yourself with determine what things you do. So the next time you are sitting around just ask yourself the one question, how is this relationship serving me?
You might be surprised with the answer.
As always, if you want to dive into this topic further just comment or reach out to me.
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